Comments on: An amicable divorce http://www.forlovingcouples.com/an-amicable-divorce/ Building Strong and Healthy Relationship Sat, 02 Jul 2011 04:50:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: amk http://www.forlovingcouples.com/an-amicable-divorce/comment-page-1/#comment-15 amk Wed, 12 Aug 2009 14:40:51 +0000 http://www.forlovingcouples.com/?p=55#comment-15 I think the reason a couple splits is partly what determines if the divorce is amicable or not. If he's leaving you for another woman, you probably won't feel too much like being agreeable. If you've grown apart and can't get the spark back, then maybe a divorce on good terms is managable. When I went through a divorce 15 years ago, it was mostly amicable. We had a six year old who was foremost in our thoughts, which led us to put our anger and egos aside to make it work. We read a lot of books at the time that said studies showed it wasn't whether parents divorced or not, but the quality of the relationships after the divorce that affected children the most. We went through mediation and got a Pro Se divorce (do it yourself), keeping lawyers out of it. I think that helped, too. Our lives were pretty simple at the time so there was no fighting over who gets what. We were both angry, and got through it. We were friends for awhile. Then we just went our own ways, with our own private lives. I think the reason a couple splits is partly what determines if the divorce is amicable or not. If he’s leaving you for another woman, you probably won’t feel too much like being agreeable. If you’ve grown apart and can’t get the spark back, then maybe a divorce on good terms is managable.

When I went through a divorce 15 years ago, it was mostly amicable. We had a six year old who was foremost in our thoughts, which led us to put our anger and egos aside to make it work. We read a lot of books at the time that said studies showed it wasn’t whether parents divorced or not, but the quality of the relationships after the divorce that affected children the most.

We went through mediation and got a Pro Se divorce (do it yourself), keeping lawyers out of it. I think that helped, too. Our lives were pretty simple at the time so there was no fighting over who gets what.

We were both angry, and got through it. We were friends for awhile. Then we just went our own ways, with our own private lives.

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