For Loving Couples

Relationshpi VS Career

Career Strangehold Vs Relationship?

We all know the challenges that can accompany any job or career.

Now add a couple’s relationship and we may have a recipe for

disaster.  Everything seems to be fine, the days go along at a

quick pace and everything is at peace.  But your promotion is

nearing and you really could use the pay raise.  The new position

will put new demands on you, but you know you’re up for the

challenge.   Your spouse/partner/significant other is very

supportive and excited for you as well.  It’s going to change

things for you, more pay, more “perks”, better benefits.  This is

what you’ve been waiting for.  Or is it?As individuals or even couples we can fall into certain patterns

of our daily lives. We get accustomed to having and doing things a

certain way.  When things change we can tend to be edger and

downright snappy at the wrong times.  Some couples have the

ability to leave work at work.  Some, however bring home the

stresses of the office or work place and at first it’s, “How was

your day?”, “did you get that project turned in?” Soon what

happens is your may be bringing home the stresses of the office

and adding them to your personal stresses as well.
With the added responsibilities, there may be extended work hours

or maybe even further travel involved.  Some positions may have

you on road trips or even gone on all day flights across the

country.  Again at first, things are exciting and new so the

helpless couple may not notice the signs of trouble that are

building. Jealously, indifference to your added duties, unaccepted

tolerance of lack of home time.  Now, granted not all or even some

of these will happen, but it can and you may want to head it off

at the path and nip it in the bud.  Why would my loved one become

jealous?  They see you going off once or twice a month to other

cities and getting to do some limited travel, though in their

heads they know you are on a working trip and you had told them

you may have to leave for extended periods of time.  They are

stuck at home alone or maybe with children, and things just tend

to happen when you’re away. It’s not your fault, or there’s. 

Things need to be decided and most often than not it’s at the

worst time.  They may seem over whelmed after one of your trips

and you should be willing to be more attentive when you get back. 

Don’t make excuses to do any work, just have your personal time. 
If your partner or spouse appear to be indifferent to your new

duties, then rethinking the promotion may have to be put on the

table, but in many cases that’s a sure fire way to lose a great

thing.  A gentle as possible reminder to them that this was talked

and agreed upon that the extra hours would be worth it in the end

and they are going to have to hold up there side of the agreement.

 Your two day weekend may only have one free day now.  This is

where your team work skills will come in handy. Be aware that life

does go on at home and you are missed. To be fair we have to state

also that the partner or spouse at home or the home town, needs to

be aware that, challenges will arise and they will have to figure

things out, it’s only fair.  In the end we need balance, in work

and in our home life.  Work as hard or as much as you can handle,

but when your off the clock, be off the clock.  There’s nothing

more frustrating then an interrupted family time with calls from

the office or being called into work.  Now some jobs require you

to be on call, that’s not what we are referring to.  Don’t let

your career be the down fall of your relationship.