If Your In Laws try to Embaress You
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Mother In Law or Monster In Law?
If you find the wedding is a difficult time you may find that other issues are bought up such as past relationships, weddings and stressful situations can bring out the worse in people, or the best, you may be suprised. I have known of people who adore their in laws, so we are talking worse case scenario.
For some people, how much in-laws contribute to the wedding is the least of the problems. A critical mother-in-law or a flirtatious father-in-law poses a much larger problem.
So what are you going to do when his overbearing mother makes another offhand comment about how great his ex-girlfriend was. Or tells you how well she got alomg with her, “she is such a sweetheart” and, I wonder what happened to her? Or if mother makes a below-the-belt comment about marrying into the wrong type of family?
It sort of reminds me of the movie “Monster In Law, with Jennifer Lopes and Jane Fonda.Naturally, the grin-and-beat-it method is the first to come to mind, but that can only work for so long, so you have to tell her obviously your son was not happy with her and that is why they are not together. Reassure her youare together for a reason and you love each other, and you hope she is happy that he is happy and that is the most important thing.
Hopefully your fiancee will realize what’s going on and stand up for you. Sometimes, though, men don’t realize how hurtful these statements are to his future wife, especially if his mother has been speaking like that his entire life. If that’s the case, sit down and have a heart to heart with your fiancee. Don’t be accusatory and under no circumstances should you start insulting his family, you want a happy relationship with all of you and one day you will most likely have children and also for the sake of the children and your future together you wnat to make this work.
After all you have a lifetime together and a lot of experiences thay are going to go through. Just explain why you’re hurt, and that you’d appreciate if he’d speak to his parents about what he has noticed and respecting you as a new member of their familymeans so much to him. The same situation should happen if you have a crude or inappropriate father-in-law, and I have know of situations like this and under no circumastance shuld you be taking abuse or dealing with inappropriate behaviour from him. That needs to be stopped right away or it will continue and can progressively get worse.
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How many in laws do you think really feel like the movie “Monster In Law”? I think more than we knw, weddings are such a sensetive time and some of us are giving up our babies and we realise our lives are changing too.
But remember they may bring wonderful addittions too!