Comments on: Keeping it Real(istic) http://www.forlovingcouples.com/keeping-it-realistic/ Building Strong and Healthy Relationship Sat, 02 Jul 2011 04:50:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Janice http://www.forlovingcouples.com/keeping-it-realistic/comment-page-1/#comment-17 Janice Fri, 14 Aug 2009 19:36:38 +0000 http://www.forlovingcouples.com/?p=75#comment-17 “Keep your expectations realistic and ask your partner to do the same for you”. This advice is good for me. Some of us, including myself, get caught up in expecting our partner to be consistently loving, devoted, attentive and patient in a way that is not really human. Somehow it is easier to overlook imperfections in others, than it is to overlook our partner's shortcomings. As a woman, part of the process for me has been raising my expectations and expressing my needs more assertively. However this at times has made me go overboard and expect too much. After all, we all have bad days, stress, exhaustion, distractions, worries, and even faults, such as a touch of self-centeredness. If there isn’t room for humanness and imperfection, the spark in a marriage may die. “Keep your expectations realistic and ask your partner to do the same for you”. This advice is good for me. Some of us, including myself, get caught up in expecting our partner to be consistently loving, devoted, attentive and patient in a way that is not really human. Somehow it is easier to overlook imperfections in others, than it is to overlook our partner’s shortcomings.

As a woman, part of the process for me has been raising my expectations and expressing my needs more assertively. However this at times has made me go overboard and expect too much. After all, we all have bad days, stress, exhaustion, distractions, worries, and even faults, such as a touch of self-centeredness. If there isn’t room for humanness and imperfection, the spark in a marriage may die.

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