Comments on: Love at first sight http://www.forlovingcouples.com/love-at-first-sight/ Building Strong and Healthy Relationship Sat, 02 Jul 2011 04:50:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: amk http://www.forlovingcouples.com/love-at-first-sight/comment-page-1/#comment-95 amk Mon, 26 Oct 2009 10:06:13 +0000 http://www.forlovingcouples.com/?p=57#comment-95 I met my husband on Saturday, September 17, 1995 at 10:12 am. We were both attending the first session of a graduate school class. I remember making giggly small talk before class. At the end of class we both stood up, and he put on his baseball hat. It amplified his green eyes and dimples. I had to grab on to the chair I stood beside, because he looked so gorgeous I nearly fell over. When we each went our own ways at days end, I remember feeling his eyes on me as I walked away. I remember wanting his eyes on me as I walked away. A week later he called me. A year later we were married with a newborn baby. 14 years later, we are still in love. Love at first sight? I don’t think so. Electricity? Definitely. Chemistry? Big time. I didn’t intend to fall in love. I didn’t even want to. At age 39, with an eight year old to raise from my failed first marriage, I was determined to never marry again. I had a plan for my life, and it didn’t include a husband. They say if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans. God’s still laughing. There is a romantic ideal that says love at first sight is somehow a higher level of love. That in an instant, we can know something so profound and enduring that it will carry us through eternity. It may happen. But I’m not sure it paves the way for happiness and fulfillment. Like most ideals, it may even get in the way of that happiness. The trick is to make the transition from the ideal to the real. To lose the trappings of what we believe love should be, and embrace what it is. That’s not easy, but it’s worth it. Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? Do you know anyone who has? Did it last- or was it a disaster? Share your story, we’d love to hear it- I met my husband on Saturday, September 17, 1995 at 10:12 am. We were both attending the first session of a graduate school class. I remember making giggly small talk before class. At the end of class we both stood up, and he put on his baseball hat. It amplified his green eyes and dimples. I had to grab on to the chair I stood beside, because he looked so gorgeous I nearly fell over. When we each went our own ways at days end, I remember feeling his eyes on me as I walked away. I remember wanting his eyes on me as I walked away. A week later he called me. A year later we were married with a newborn baby. 14 years later, we are still in love.

Love at first sight? I don’t think so. Electricity? Definitely. Chemistry? Big time. I didn’t intend to fall in love. I didn’t even want to. At age 39, with an eight year old to raise from my failed first marriage, I was determined to never marry again. I had a plan for my life, and it didn’t include a husband. They say if you want to hear God laugh, tell him your plans. God’s still laughing.

There is a romantic ideal that says love at first sight is somehow a higher level of love. That in an instant, we can know something so profound and enduring that it will carry us through eternity. It may happen. But I’m not sure it paves the way for happiness and fulfillment. Like most ideals, it may even get in the way of that happiness. The trick is to make the transition from the ideal to the real. To lose the trappings of what we believe love should be, and embrace what it is. That’s not easy, but it’s worth it.

Have you ever fallen in love at first sight? Do you know anyone who has? Did it last- or was it a disaster? Share your story, we’d love to hear it-

]]> By: fit2betied http://www.forlovingcouples.com/love-at-first-sight/comment-page-1/#comment-24 fit2betied Sat, 29 Aug 2009 17:58:59 +0000 http://www.forlovingcouples.com/?p=57#comment-24 I have heard and read some of the studyies, and sure there may be some chemical reactions going, but its more then any test could ever find. Its a wave of emotion that washes over you when you see this speacial person. The mere sound of their voice makes you turn to mush and you hang on every word like it was the gospel. You get the butterflys in your stomach when there near you and you cant stop thinking about them when their away. I will admit that as a young person I probly had more hormones racing through my veins then most and in fact I will admit that some of the occurances where of a "lustful" nature. But I also know that when I met my now current wife so many years ago it was "Love at First Sight". Being much older now, I have never found or had those feeling like I did back then. So my question is, Could it be an age preception perhaps? That so many young people have claimed to have found there one and only, and have yet never truly had the life experiances to know what "true" love is. Again my adult mind and 45 plus years tells me not likly, but I have to keep an open mind. Which brings up my other observation, today technogly has brought about a scientific slant to the whole finding love game. Match making on the internet has gained so much momemtum over the past 5-10 years that many are making claims that they have being brought together with their soul mate. But isnt it just a numbers game? If you read through enough resumes, and filter down the top personal choices, you are bound to find someone who you feel can fit the bill of your soul mate. Personaly feels a little off to me, but I'm not knocking it, if this is what you have done. I just know I found my love on first sight! I have heard and read some of the studyies, and sure there may be some chemical reactions going, but its more then any test could ever find. Its a wave of emotion that washes over you when you see this speacial person. The mere sound of their voice makes you turn to mush and you hang on every word like it was the gospel. You get the butterflys in your stomach when there near you and you cant stop thinking about them when their away. I will admit that as a young person I probly had more hormones racing through my veins then most and in fact I will admit that some of the occurances where of a “lustful” nature. But I also know that when I met my now current wife so many years ago it was “Love at First Sight”. Being much older now, I have never found or had those feeling like I did back then. So my question is, Could it be an age preception perhaps? That so many young people have claimed to have found there one and only, and have yet never truly had the life experiances to know what “true” love is. Again my adult mind and 45 plus years tells me not likly, but I have to keep an open mind. Which brings up my other observation, today technogly has brought about a scientific slant to the whole finding love game. Match making on the internet has gained so much momemtum over the past 5-10 years that many are making claims that they have being brought together with their soul mate. But isnt it just a numbers game? If you read through enough resumes, and filter down the top personal choices, you are bound to find someone who you feel can fit the bill of your soul mate. Personaly feels a little off to me, but I’m not knocking it, if this is what you have done. I just know I found my love on first sight!

]]> By: Zashkaser http://www.forlovingcouples.com/love-at-first-sight/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Zashkaser Wed, 05 Aug 2009 18:00:35 +0000 http://www.forlovingcouples.com/?p=57#comment-6 The best information i have found exactly here. Keep going Thank you The best information i have found exactly here. Keep going Thank you

]]>