For Loving Couples

How do you keep the spark glowing, or fan the flames?

Grab a pen and paper and quickly write down five (5) places you want to make love. ”GO!” Now, write ten (10) places you “have” made love without any repeats if possible. So did any of your 5 items make your 10 item list? It’s OK if some did. This could be a trigger point for you, a location that seems to just make you and your lover feel more romantic. I did this exercise and had one duplicate, making love on the beach! It’s just a very sexy place to be with someone you care about and the natural sounds of the ocean and the cool breezes makes for a very exciting encounter.

Would you take a gamble and build a fantasy date from your list. I also noticed my five (5) lists, contains more exotic locations now. When I was younger some years ago, If the opportunity presented it’s self for me to grab my lover and take advantage of any spare moment we had to get Naked! Let’s be honest that’s what it’s about the sensations we give and receive when our bodies are in contact. What do we as loving couples do? How did we get to where we are and stay there? What about those couples who feel they have crested in their relationship? Where do they go for some enlightenment? In all my years of human observation, a few things stand out;

A) Couples who blend like bread and butter.
B) Couples who mix like oil and water.
C) Couples that take the bread and butter and make a meal out of it. Then enjoy a hot tub with scented oil together.

Humans are by nature a physical species; we have the ability to pick and chose when and where we want to engage in sexual endeavors. With our own self awareness of sexuality and animal attractions being what they are many couples start with a hunger for lots of physical attention. Later, after only a few years they may feel disconnected or distant. How do you get that spark back? How can we re-kindle the fire of our relationship into the blazing bond fire it once was?

Start with what’s on your list. These are keys to what gets your juices flowing. If you haven’t already sit down with your mate and start another list of 5-10-15 locations, places, the two of you would enjoy making love. It doesn’t matter if there in your home, your backyard, or around the globe in some far off location. The only thing that matters is that you share your desire to be with them. Tell them the idea of making love in any of these locations is exciting. This alone may lead to some special moments.

Remember when the only private place to make out was your car? When is the last time you got hot and heavy in the back seat? There’s something extra exciting in being separated from the public, but also being so close that you might get caught! Anyone ever had that happen? A couple times maybe?

Some of the best ideas are the ones we keep simple, trying to outdo something we did before only leads to frustration. Think fun and easy and the rest will take care of its self.

Here is a fun, light and sexy scenario to build on.

Have some extra time on your hands? Surprise your wife, husband, or partner, when they come home, have some wine or the drink of their choice ready and chilled, have some appetizers pre-done, nothing to out there just simple and easy. Have the tray and drink waiting for them as they come through the door. Your position is to make them feel relaxed and comfortable. Set the atmosphere, dim lights, soft candles, easy listening music.

Be dressed for “service” in a waist apron for guys, full apron for the gals and a bow tie. (Ladies if you enjoy wearing a garter and stockings that’s always a welcome sight.) Nothing else! Have them sit and relax while you finish up preparing the main course. You might feel silly at first, but the laughter and the lovemaking that will happen will be unforgettable. Enjoy your meal. Oh, and don’t forget to have desert set up in the bedroom. Have something chilled bedside, maybe some fruit to nibble on. (Fruit can be very sexy.) Be sure to let them know gratuities are not included, so any “tips” would be appreciated! Have fun, make it a special. More to come later.