Making a Lasting Impression
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Honesty In a relationship
Show Up As Yourself
First impressions do have a lasting impact. Some human resource managers say that it takes them just a few seconds to form a first impression. So be your best self, but your real self. But sometimes that is not a fair judgement, people are nervous, have qualities that may show up later and may look or feel what looks totally not for you at first sight might even turn out to be a whole lot appealing much later.. But generally speaking, people do form an opinion about us as soon as they set their eyes on us. So it is important to do our best to put our best foot forward for that all important first meeting which would most probably set the trend for the relationship for the coming years.However, you need to exercise caution on going overboard to impress someone. Some people don’t like the way they are and so try to project an image of the kind of person that they would like to be. Even people who are quick-tempered and impulsive try to put on a show as if they are the nicest people to be around with. This could have disastrous consequences for a long term relationship because everyone knows that you can’t live with a mask on at all times.
At some time or the other, you might need to take your mask off and if people don’t like what they see you are in big trouble. In fact this is so common and that is why so many marriages end up in divorce in so many countries around the world. In order to make a good impression, people try to pretend to be something that they are not and somewhere along the line their true colors are seen and there ends the relationship.
This is not to say that we should not pay attention to first impressions. We just need to make sure that the image that we project about ourselves is a true picture of who and what we are. We should never try to make the other person get an impression that is contrary to what we really are. Faking it does not produce lasting results. Being honest about ourselves would make better sense in the long run. There are no shortcuts to success in long term relationships. It takes a lot of time, effort and a lot of virtues to cultivate a good and pleasing personality. The main problem with most people is that they never make a conscious effort to develop good personality traits that they would one day be happy to project to their prospective life partner. They live any which way they like and pay no attention whatsoever to the kind of person they really are in reality. But when it is time for them to begin a serious, lasting relationship with someone they like, they crumble.
While trust is important for any relationship, it is more so when it comes to the relationship between couples. The amount of trust between spouses or fiance’s in a relationship is one of the more important ingredients in the glue that binds that relationship together at the last moment trying to hide their flaws with a superficial exterior which they hope would mask their ugly inner selves.
But the wisest way to begin a relationship is to cultivate a pleasing inner personality which you would never be ashamed to expose to people close to you. You can be honest about who you are, and your mate would begin to love you more as they get to know you better if you had taken the time to become a beautiful person
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