Sexless Relationships, WHY?

Is Love Without Sex a Normal Relationship?

Sexless Relationships

I have spent the last couple of months researching others stories of couples being in a sexless marriage or relationship.  The topic struck me as odd at first. But, I have come to understand that this is a serious issue that is affecting more than a few couples throughout our country and I’m sure around the world.  From what I’ve come to understand, the relationships all start as normal as everything else, but somewhere between 9 months to 2 years into the relationship a trend starts. The trend is less and less physical attraction from one or both parties. Maybe that work has taken a larger part of their available time, and or when the time is available the opportunity isn’t taken advantage of.

The main common thing I am seeing is it seems to be one sided. One partner wants to continue with the relationship and have sex on a more regular basis.  The opposite is true for the other party as they want nothing to do with their spouse or partner and have loss all physical interest in the relationship.  They may still love them, but that where it stops. Many have claimed there may have been drinking or drugs involved and in some cases its occurred after the couple starts bringing children into the relationship.  There is a medical condition known as “Post Partum Depression” 

Postpartum depression is moderate to severe depression in a woman after she has given birth. It may occur soon after delivery or up to a year later. Most of the time, it occurs within the first 4 weeks after delivery.- Google HealthThis is only one of a number of issues that this sexual separation could be growing from. I read the statement of a married man who had three wonderful children whom he loved very much but as hard as he tried he could not connect with his wife, he ask her to attend counseling with him to see if that would help but she quit attending. He talked and shared with her on numerous occasions about how he felt towards her and that he was willing to do whatever it took to make her love him again.  She would have nothing to do with it, She loved him and knew he was a wonderful father to their children, but she no longer wanted sexual relations with him, ever!  After asking a few simple questions he stated he had decided to leave her once the children had finished collage, he didn’t want to distract them from their studies.  He again told her of his plans and she agreed and was unaffected.

What are you suppose to do?  You are trying everything you can to work it out and yet your getting nowhere. It comes time to realize that you have the right to be happy. I will always encourage you to sit and talk with your counterpart and work out how to separate without causing a big riff in the family.  Everyone has the right to be happy and if things have changed to the point where your more roommates then soul mates then it’s time to consider separation.  At this point you’re no longer in a amicable relationship you need to chose what is right for you. 

Be smart and be thoughtful. Most of all be happy. Everyone deserves to have and enjoy a Loving Couples Relationship.

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