For Loving Couples

Are you in the perfect relationship? Are you struggling to keep it together?

These two basic questions are asked by every loving couple. Is there such a thing as a perfect relationship?
Relationships are like Popcorn. There’s a measured amount that goes into the pot, as the heat begins to rise, and the oil heats up the kernels start to pop! Very shortly thereafter, more start popping! Soon the whole kettle is full of freshly popped corn! Hmmm smells great!

As you take those first few bites (first dates), the popcorn almost melts in your mouth, and the flavors blend with the butter and salt (newness and freshness). But as you get deeper into the bucket (time together), the kernels get smaller and the nice ones are harder to find (that special feeling) and before you know it you bite down on an uncooked kernel and it feels like you bit into a rock! Reality!
So my question for you today is; has your relationship popped to perfection or failed to pop at all?
Let’s look at 5 things that should be considered positive signs it’s working, and then 5 signs that it may not be working the way you hoped.

Humans by far are the most complicated mammals on earth. Besides being the only verbal communicating species, we also have the ability to choose our mate on a more selective base then the size of his chest or color of her feathers. Many would argue that we, as a species, have lost our natural instincts when choosing a mate. Animals pick and choose based on the most basic levels of strength, availability, location and time of year. Not just the size of his rack or antlers! The female of some species makes herself available to those who will fight for, sometimes to the death, the right to be with her and reproduce. They respond by instinct, sometimes blindly, to her. Our human courtship has evolved well past this most basic level of courtship, but that’s another whole bucket of buttered kernels to nibble on.

Here are 5 questions to ask yourself and see if you are on the right track in your relationship.

1)Do you wake up in the morning and smile, first thing when you see your partner? T / F
2)You have to tell them “I love you” though you know you did just 5 minutes ago? T / F
3)The day seems to drag on and you can’t wait to get back home, or meet up with, your loved one for a quick coffee during a meal break. T / F
4)The fact that you’re together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and you still can’t get enough of being with that special person. T / F
5)The romance that sparked the relationship is better today than yesterday. The feelings don’t fade. T/ F

“We are crazy in love”! How many times have you heard that? The movies portray Love that is fast and easy to find and it’s magical. There are those couples who have been together for decades and could never think of being with anyone else. Is it love? Only those living it could tell you.
What about the other side of the coin, or that un-popped kernel? What are the signs you look for to see if you are not doing well in the relationship?

Here are the 5 questions to ask yourself when you are not sure you are on the right track in your relationship.

1)When waking up, you pretend to be asleep and hope they leave the house before you have to get out of bed. T / F
2)When you tell them, “I love you” it’s a chore. When you’re told “I love you” you feel obligated to reply. T /F
3)You dread going home because you don’t want to spend alone time with your partner. T / F
4)You can’t wait for the weekend, so you can go visit family or be with friends and find other reasons to be away from your partner. T / F
5)When the mere mention of romance comes up you will find a way to postpone any physical contact. T / F

Please keep in mind these are general observations and not concrete by any means, every relationship has ups and downs. It’s all part of the cycle we as humans go through. The key is learning to spot the signs and start the communication with that person. There was at some point magic between you and it made your heart rate quicken and your palms get sweaty. It takes effort and communication to make it through the tuff times, that’s when your Loving Couples relationship will be put to the test.
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