The Truth about Self Care
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Wonderful team author
The Truth About Self Care
When you meet a person you like very much and would want to start a serious relationship with them, you must be careful that you do not pretend to be someone you are not. People often make this mistake. They assume either rightly or wrongly that the other person likes certain traits and then go ahead and try to superficially exhibit those traits. For instance men sometimes try to impress their fiancés by spending much beyond their capacity. They assume that their mate would not like their actual financial background and therefore go to great lengths to make themselves look rich their eyes. They never realize that they may not able to keep up the act for long. Especially, if the relationship matures into a marriage relationship, the new bride would come to know the man’s true potential within no time at all. If she finds out that she had been lied to, the relationship can turn sour quite quickly.
In an effort to win a woman’s heart, men seem to play all kinds of games. They feel that if they don’t put on a show, and project a good image of themselves, they might lose their prospective mate. This might be true, but men should be chivalrous enough to let the woman decide for herself. There is no point in duping a person into a relationship and hoping that the relationship would last. It is better to be honest right from the beginning and be quite open and frank about yourself. If the woman sees you as you are and then still likes you, then you are on to a very good start. People in that kind of a relationship need not hide anything as each knows the other person intimately and still loves them for what they are. There is truth, honesty, warmth and freedom which would cement the relationship forever.
The principle applies to both men and women equally. Women also try to impress their prospective mates especially with a lot of makeup aids to make them look beautiful and attractive. It is true that most men are more attracted to the physical aspect when dealing with women in a relationship. But women too need to understand that they cannot lie about their looks especially if the relationship is going to culminate in marriage. A marriage relationship gets two people so close to each other that they can neither hide their inner personal traits nor their external bodily features. Their have to stand stark naked before their spouse in terms of the body as well as the soul which houses their intellect, emotions and will. When there is nothing to hide their true nature, would their spouse like what they see? This is a question that every woman needs to ask even before she contemplates a serious relationship. Just superficial changes to one’s looks cannot make them last forever. Women also need to understand that external beauty is fleeting while inward beauty from the heart remains eternal. Women who spend more time cultivating their inner selves would be investing wisely because that is where true beauty lies.
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