For Loving Couples

When the Romance dies…

What happens when the romance dies, do we continue to live a life of discontentment or does it grow into another phase of love? Is it OK to “settle” and just make the best of it?

Romance is a gift and it must be treated like one. But for some of us, it simply disappears. This is not to say that it can’t be rekindled but what do you do when it’s gone? Perhaps the first step is to determine why the romance died. Money issues? Disagreement over parenting styles? Stress at work?

Perhaps the number one reason romance dies is anger, particularly anger held within. That, along with not being able to forgive and forget, creates a volatile atmosphere and romance is usually the first casualty. Sometimes the distance between you and your loved one is too great and the relationship is doomed. And failed attempts at getting back together only make matters worse.

Some people are simply not the romantic type. That’s OK if the one they are with is the same way. Problems arise when one looks at life in a romantic way while the other has much more matter of fact view about things. When you feel that romance is the best of what life has to offer and your partner thinks it’s silly, it might be best to part ways.

On the other hand, maybe it’s best to stay in the relationship when the romance is and try to make the best of it. The question of whether you should to “settle” and continue in the relationship, however empty can only be answered by you. Take a good look at the situation. Maybe you are disappointed with your partner but hate to be alone. Or maybe you’re convinced you’ll never find someone else, even though the one you are with is nothing more than a companion. Maybe you still have faith in the fact that the romance will return. These are important things to ponder.