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Would You Marry Him Again? Wisdom from a Grandmother

By julia

Would You Marry Him Again?

As we sat over tea, I asked my Grandmother would you marry him again? I think I was reflecting on my own marriage and the thoughts just came blurting out of my mouth before I could catch them.

After a short pause, I am not sure she said. You know when I was young it was something that was expected, I didn’t have the choices that you young people have today.

I love him, but there was no love at first sight, it was a grow on you type of relationship which came with a lot of obligations, not so much our choice but for the expectation of the family, you know.

I was pregnant, and we either did the “right thing” or I would have to go away and live in the country and have an excuse for my missing husband when I came back.

But he has been a good man, he cared for me looked after the family, is a wonderful father, strong values and many qualities that you would look for if you had to do it all over again. We have our differences, but he loves to dance with me, not many men dance now, that is something I would miss.He is a snappy dresser and has never had the wandering eye. He buys me treats and surprises me with little things. One day I came home to find a bubble bath run, and a new nightie, and some lovely skin lotion laid out on the bed. I loved it. I think he loves me more than I love him sometimes. I don’t think I have ever thought of this question before, There are so many things I have taken for granted, we fell into life continued on and never stopped to think .I don’t think I have appreciated him as much as I could have.

He’s always wanted to travel but I have made so many excuses, and now we are not getting any younger, so now it is time to look at that and start doing something that he would want. Thank you for asking me that question my beautiful granddaughter, you made me think and look at love in a different way. It is not the swirl and romance and the sweep you off your feet, it is the growing old together with someone you can count on, with someone who treats you with respect and thinks of the little things in life that are thoughtful and mean something to you.

Now all is said and done I would marry him again, I love him, I really love him and I need to show him and I am I not sure I have ever told him. I am going to plan a surprise vacation for him and who knows I may even plan a small second wedding ceremony, just for us and not for anyone else, the way we would like to do things now; a little less fussier and maybe on the beach, sand between our toes and a few of those strawberry marguerites those young people drink these days.